Firstly i will say sorry to DD ,if you read this you may be upset but this is my space and my feelings and nothing i do or say is put down to upset you.
I love all my children and have a good relationship with them.Youngest DD is the only one left at home and right from the start we have had a brilliant relationship .I have always lived by the moto that i trust until the time that trust is abused.So they have all been allowed to spread there wings and do things.
DD has been in a relationship with a lad a few years older than her for nearly 2 and half years.For a young couple they argued lots and in my opinion didn't do the things they should do together,I'm a firm believer in that old fashioned way of courtship.
They booked a holiday together earlier in the year which they went on in August she had said it would be make or break and it broke her,She missed home and phoned every day in tears sometimes because how he was to her .She told us that when she got back from hols she was going to end it but then we poleaxed her with the news of her dog and he was nice to her.A few days later she was off on her girly holiday she wasn't keen on going but she did and I'm glad.
She had an amazing time didn't miss home and didn't want to come home ,the way it should be.She met a lad on holiday and he wanted to see her when she got home,He doesn't live that far from us so not impossible.I know this isn't a perfect scenario but it gave her the confidence to say i want out of this relationship.She told BF she wanted a break now BF suffers from some mental health issues and he threatened suicide if she left him.Now don't get me wrong but my daughter is 18 in a few weeks and doesn't need this she will have many years of having to deal with the hang ups of life.
She kept in contact and has seen holiday romance lad a few times but ex is still hanging on,Flowers delivered yesterday ,promises of change.DD says she loves him and would go back to him but i don't want this.As i have said we talk about everything and i know as well as she does hes not good for her,I don't think i want him back in my house staying over and taking advantage of my hospitality anymore.When he speaks rudely to her i wont be able to bite my tongue.
DD says i have put her in an awful position as she has asked for and knows my feelings on the matter and wouldn't want to do anything to upset me but she had made the hardest decision and by going back i can see it then being a forever relationship because he will knock everything out of her and she wont have the confidence to do it again.She will have no friends and wont be able to talk to boys even work colleagues without him threatening them to stay away when he sees them.
New lad seems to be a bit maturer he walked along with my daughter and another lad walked by and said your lucky to have her on your arm shes a stunner and he took it as the complement it was.
I know i have to step back and let her make her own mistakes and live her own life but its so hard when you know the next step will be ex producing a ring.....
Well apart from that we now have a new dog another unwanted dog.I relented to Cheer daughter up and take her mind off ex( backfired)Shes a lovely girl.
We also had the funeral yesterday very sad but a lovely service and well turned out.OH is being nice to me at the moment so I'm thankful for that .
Debt busting is going really well and granddaughters are coming down in October so well chuffed on that one.
That's enough of my ramblings
until next time